Who’s Gonna Save Us?
Once upon a time someone said “There’s a hero in all of us. Have you found yours?” – Michael “Nightwing” McNair
I’ll be honest it took me 3 years to discover mine. Mostly because I spent that time giving my energy to others and not myself. The result: I was emotionally and spiritually depleted. Giving your energy to others is detrimental to your health. You cannot pour into someone else when you yourself are empty.
Imagine: You are trying to help a friend that is in a ditch. In order to help them out, you start digging underneath your own feet and putting it their hole. Soon they are walking away and you are in a hole too deep to climb out of.
I go on tangents so before I forget the point of this post is the importance of seeking mental health to overcome personal burdens (guilt, shame, hurt, etc.).
Over the years the question about finding my own hero has popped into my thoughts during times of difficulty. Too often we look for a savior; someone to rescue us from our circumstances. The harsh reality is that no such person is coming. More often than not we put ourselves in the tough spots we find ourselves in. We all have an inner voice that speaks to us. Some speak in whispers, others they scream. The issue is that we refuse to listen. Our refusal leads us to ruin.
That’s not to say that there aren’t people that will lend us a hand and help us. But why should we expect someone else to bankrupt their own emotional wellbeing to fix ours? Stop asking friends to carry you, they are there to support you. If there is something that is weighing you down mentally then ask for help from a professional.
Personal Anecdote: I’ll skip to the main point. My license is suspended. And I have no one to blame but myself. At first, I was in denial about the whole situation. As much as I felt that the other person in the car should be helping me out the fact remains that when the officer pulled me over I was behind the wheel. No one is paying for my related expenses but me. No one is going to stand before the judge but me.
Even before this experience, I realized that I was responsible for me. I took the first step and started seeing a therapist to deal with my own baggage.
We are fully equipped to heal/save/rescue ourselves but we have to stop living in the fairy tale– the fantasy that someone owes us their energy to fix us. That mentality keeps us bitter and angry when things don’t change. And if you are waiting for someone to “fix your life” look in the mirror.
You are important
Mental health is important
Your mental health is important
Resources are out there. Seek them out.
Homework: Look in the mirror for 2 minutes. Appreciate and accept the person that you are. Lift your head up and go dig yourself out.